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Even in their own, after the movement, articles you can hear the victim blaming "I wore my heart on my sleeve" the writers describe themselves as weak in the face of systemic abuse.


I'm reading while watching my nephew.  I'm watching him a few days a week all summer. He is 9, and a similarly aged girl from next door comes over and plays video games and eats lunch almost every day.  The truth is, I'm mostly here to make sure he remembers that there is more to the world than whichever game he is currently obsessed with,  and that when he gets hungry he doesn't a) burn the house down or b) eat a bag full of candy.

Nephew and his friend are constantly referencing weird songs and you tube videos.  #KidsTheseDays This is honestly only strange because things like you tube videos weren't really a thing until I was in high school.   There is a specific you tube video being reenacted in the kitchen.   To the children, it's a funny song, and concept.  I keep thinking that we're constantly making normal the behaviors that lead to a need for "Me Too movement." The behaviors that make #MeToo necessary surround us constantly, and their insidious nature is most obvious in children.  "You're going to be the girl if you keep that controller." "That's pink.."

Making the changes that are necessary to stop violence from men includes making significantly more changes to the way that men and women interact in every form of media, and constantly having an open dialogue about the causes of dangerous behavior.  Personally, I think conversations about consent are an important place to start.

#MeToo by Lori Perkins is amazing collection, that shows many of the difficulties and disappointments of the Me Too Movement.  This book contains, above all else, variety and meaning. There is a call to action and truth. Me Too includes  talk about the systematic issues and how to change, writers share stories.  There is even a poem. #MeToo is an enjoyable read with a varied stance that makes it particularly poignant. I received this book for free from Net Galley in exchange for my feedback.

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